Why “How was your day?” Isn’t the Best Question

At the end of the day as parents we often ask our children about their day. The temptation is to ask them, “How was your day?” If you have ever done this before, you probably know that this question often leaves you with one-word responses and isn’t really good for starting a conversation. I’ve seen a number of different lists of alternative ways to ask your child about his or her day or get them involved in conversation. Here are some of my favorite ideas found from various blogs.

  1. Tell me about today’s “thorn” (a not-great thing that happened) at school.
  2. Now tell me about the “rose” (the best thing that happened).
  3. Was it a “play with your friends at recess” kind of day? Or a “chill by yourself on the swings” kind of day?
  4. You had art/music/computer today, right? What kind of project are you working on?
  5. Tell me something kind that you did for someone today.
  6. Tell me something kind that someone else did for you.
  7. How many stars would you give the cafeteria food today?
  8. Did your friends get along really well today?
  9. If you could have one subject all day, what would it be?
  10. If we had a time machine that went back one day, would you change anything about today?
  11. If you had $20 to do anything you wanted with, what would you buy?
  12. Describe your dream vacation.
  13. What qualities make a good friend?
  14. If you could make your own movie, what would you call it?
  15. If you could be invisible for one day, what would you do?

Give some of these a try in the car or around the dinner table this week, and see if you can spark some fun conversations!


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